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July 25, 2007

When In Doubt

Filed under: Your Success

One of my favorite authors is Deepak Chopra. And in one of his recent bestsellers, The Book of Secrets, he discusses doubt and it’s impact on decision making.

”Doubt is a symptom indicating that you aren’t in contact with the knower inside. It usually means that you are looking outside yourself when you have to make a choice. Your decision is going to be based on externals. For most people, the strongest externals come down to what other people think because fitting in is the path of least resistance. But fitting in is like embracing inertia. Social acceptance is the lowest common denominator of the self - it’s you as a social unit rather than you as a unique person. Find out who you really are; let fitting in be the last thing on your mind. Either it will happen or it won’t, but in either case you will be in no more doubt about yourself.”

July 9, 2007

The Flounder of Blame

Filed under: Stop Floundering

We all do it - place blame, that is. Indeed it’s common for us to look for the fault of others whenever something occurs that we see as wrong, offensive or damaging in some way.

A lot of people blame their parents for what is wrong in their life, their bosses for their lack of progress, or society as a whole for more global “problems.” But I think that placing blame and fault-finding are of themselves to “blame” for keeping us as individuals from moving forward.

By placing blame:

  • We remain stuck where we are in life, and impede our own progress;
  • We shift responsibility away from ourselves and our own success; and
  • We become blind to solutions and possibilities for growth and change.

If you’d like to stop floundering in a pool of blame, then move past focusing on who is at fault in every situation.  Instead, look at what lessons you can learn from the choices that others make, and the impact that doing so has on them and others.